Happiness & Fulfillment

The destruction and power of believes.

What are you telling yourself every day? Conscious or unconscious? Are you aware of what you believe? Our believes make us who we are and holding us back in some cases. This is why it is important to understand what your believes and values are so that you can empower those that serve you and discredit the ones that are holding you back.

My believes

My believes brought me where I am now, but some limited me in my potential. For example, I had people tell me: This is not for you. This made me want to prove myself, that I was capable and able to do that, and it was something that was for me. But it also made me give up things where I didn’t have to prove anything. For me, this sentence this is not for you imprinted a believe of I need to prove myself. This believe limited me in some areas of my life while it empowered others.

Gathering evidence for you believes.

The sub-conscious mind is always looking around for evidence for your believes. Even if you are not aware of it, you gather evidence which empower you believes even if they have a negative impact. You can visualize it as a scale, every time you find evidence you put a rock into the scale empowering or discrediting a believe.

Don’t think about the pink elephant.

If I say to you don’t think about the pink elephant, you mind first needs to think about the pink elephant before it knows what not to think about. Meaning you will be thinking about it. It is important to be aware that the mind doesn’t handle negations very well. Therefore, if somebody says you shouldn’t think about it, you mind probably will start thinking about it.

Directing you mind and believes.

If we shouldn’t use negations, what should we do? Begin with stating what you want, for example I want to lose weight or I want to be a great dad. Transform these in values or believes. If you want to lose wait you could say I can lose wait or you could state that you way a certain amount, before the fact. Then you start collecting evidence and this is the hard part. The hard part is not to be to harsh on yourself. In the example of I want to lose weight, look at what you did. For example, I did a 30-minute workout. Maybe you did the workout and eat a healthy lunch. The hard part here is that we sometimes think we need to both to be successful. But the trick here is to celebrate each small step, empowering the belief. Each small step will give you prove and will slowly tip the scale in you favor.